Today’s tip is for churches (or whoever!) to help the isolated over the holidays. Listen to and build a relationship with the isolated to come alongside them over the holidays (and beyond!)

The holidays can be especially difficult for the isolated (families with disabled children, disabled, chronically ill, elderly, or caregivers). It is not easy to miss out on festivities, to remain alone while others are celebrating, to have plans change due to health needs, or to be completely house-bound. How can we come alongside them?

Traditionally, in my experience, churches will stop by with treats or caroling at some point over the holidays. This is great as it reminds them that they are loved and seen. This is good. Please keep it up! 

But, today’s tip helps us take it a bit further. Honestly, they need much more than our drop by gifts and treats. But, before you think, “This is impossible” or “We don’t have enough people to do this.” It may not be as involved as you think.

Each isolated person’s needs are different. The most important thing we can do is listen to what would help them through the holidays. Often, the needs may be as simple. Relationship is important in this as many of us hesitate to open up and help. The biggest way you can help is listening. Here are some ideas that may help the isolated during the holidays:

• Have a family or Sunday School class in the church adopt the isolated.
• Share a meal with them, listening to their stories. (Be sure to touch base about any dietary requirements.)
• Offer to do shopping or errands for them. While there is much available online, it is sometimes hard to take advantage of the holiday sales. Or, call them before you run errands to various stores to see what they may need.
• Contact them throughout the holiday in the way that works best for them (text, email, a visit, or, gasp, a phone call)
• Include them in any projects the church has for the season. They have much to offer and are a vital part of the church.
• Encourage the isolated to contact and help each other. This will help give them purpose as well.
• While they may not be able to attend church regularly, see if there is a way that they would be able to attend a special service. What challenges would need to be overcome?
• Assist them in decorating their home. But, be sure to also make a plan to clean it up as well.
• If possible, have them join you or join them for a meal on or near the holiday. Again, be sure to check dietary requirements. Allow enough time to enjoy the fellowship.

The list goes on. I think that as the Church, we are able to better help the isolated by listening to what they truly need.